Sometimes, when I come home, I sit on the cold tile floor near the window facing the backyard. I look out. Not at anything specifically, just out. I might mentally review my day. Or wonder about the next. On occasion, my friend will sit on his bed near the heater and gaze at me. I notice. I look back into his eyes and he into mine. Sometimes for several minutes at a time. We're communicating. He's telling me about his day. The squirrels he chased, the naps he took, the game he played with the other dogs, the many times he heard a car pass by the front of the house, and how bad he wanted to chase it. At the end, he pauses, then proceeds to ask me one question. The same question he always asks me. "Where have you been?"
As always, I tell him about my day and explain why I wasn't able to be here with him, chasing squirrels, taking naps, playing games & barking at cars passing by. When I finish, he stares at me for several seconds, then lies down,closes his eyes and drifts to sleep.
College can sometimes be overrated. Don't get me wrong, it has the potential to be a great experience. To some, college was one of the greatest experiences of their lives. I can't count how many times I've heard numerous people say "the best years of your life are in college".
I don't know, I guess they miss the community aspect that college offers (amongst other things). There's something about struggling and striving to achieve the similar goal('s) as others that makes us feel like we're on the right path, even if that's a lie. What I mean by that is no one wants to fail alone. Some may want to succeed alone, but I'm sure most would agree that succeeding as a group is much more fulfilling.
"If you want to go fast, go alone.
If you want to go far, go together."
-someone on Twitter
As I walked to my class this morning (after hunting for a parking spot for 30 mins), I looked around at the diverse crowd of students, all from different walks of life. Some were in groups some were alone. I wondered, why are they all really here? A degree is an obvious answer, but I believe for some of them it's deeper than that. Maybe they're looking to experience the best years of their life. Maybe they're trying to discover themselves. Maybe they're just doing as they were told, by parents; peers; society or whomever. Or maybe they just have nothing better to do and have a big pile of cash lying around.
Whatever the reason, I believe they are all searching for something far more important than a degree. Whether they know what it is and are just taking the necessary steps to obtain it. Or are lost and just want to know where to begin searching and figured college was a good place to start.
But why? Why are they searching to begin with? What do they believe they will find? Yes, they receive a degree which can be an advantage(?) in their field of study. But that "advantage" has an expiration date. They know that. Or should know that. I guess they're searching because someone convinced them that receiving a degree was a sure fire way to find it, and if they found it they would obtain what we are all really after.
I believe the only way to achieve true happiness is to share it. Perhaps that's why some students get engaged & marry while in college or just after graduating. Because they realize that all their success won't mean a thing if they don't have anyone to share it with.
To conclude, I don't know if receiving a degree will get you one step closer to finding true happiness. I don't know if it will help you find what you are looking for. I don't know if it will satisfy your parents; peers or society.
What I do know is that we can't find happiness. Happiness finds us. When we surround ourselves with people we're glad to have in our lives. When we flood our schedules with tasks we love doing. When we achieve goals we set for ourselves (big or small). When we exceed our own expectations and help others find happiness.
We achieve true happiness.
These are thoughts that cross mind when walking to class.
This home for a couple days.